How to Get Better at Boundaries: Use Healthy Negotiating Principles
This is especially useful when you think about the implicit negotiations in creating and maintaining healthy boundaries with people. Healthy boundaries, after all, are all about mutual respect for one another’s wants and needs, and awareness of what is and isn’t your responsibility. Here are six useful lessons to consider.Read More
Psychoeducation Series #4: A Deeper Understanding of Anxiety
The oft-noted phenomenon “What You Allow is What Will Continue” is closely related; we often see people treating us in ways we don’t like or want, yet are unwilling to say or hold our boundaries. In both there is a certain laxness involved, and thinking with either of these mental errors contributes mightily to anxiety.Read More
Psychoeducation Series #3: Anxiety – Why Me?
Can we ever really get rid of anxiety? In this two part series I’ll discuss anxiety generally and give some tips on how to try to manage it, then I will give you a deeper theoretical dive into the two related but usefully different ways I conceptualize it in treatment. The very short answer to …Read More
Psychoeducation Series #2: (Why) Am I Depressed?
We all wonder from time to time if we or a loved one is depressed, and why we are so. Let me try to shed some light on these questions. Clinically there are several types of depression, but there are two types therapists usually work with; Major Depressive Disorder (MDD), and Persistent Depressive Disorder (PDD), …Read More
Psychoeducation Series #1: Why Am I Angry?
Saying someone is ‘emotional’ is usually meant as something of a criticism, but the truth is humans would never have evolved if we didn’t have emotions. They have played an indelible, irreplaceable role in our evolution as a species, and in the development of our societies. While emotions such as love and fear are bedrock …Read More
What To Expect In Psychotherapy
As a psychotherapist, I find it troubling that there are so many badly dramatized depictions of therapy in TV and film. (One *good* one is the show In Treatment). I imagine it’s better than being a lawyer and having to deal with the negative stereotypes and jokes, but the state of affairs leaves most people …Read More
Welcome To My Blog
In these pages I’ll discuss with you influential philosophers, psychologists, theories, and their practical applications with the goal of helping you better understand yourself, the puzzles, and the roadblocks you may be facing. Happy reading!Read More